My husband and I have been married for 22 years. Honestly, it has been draining and a struggle for the most part. I love him dearly and continue to pray and hope for better days. 2 years ago I notice my Husband started expressing my flaws to his family, some peers, and my family. Flaws such as drinking on occasions and sometimes not cleaning the house. At first I didn’t say anything. Keep in mind everyone have flaws!
Earlier this year we attended married canceling. During one of our sessions, loyalty was a topic. The pastor stated that couples should never tell their spouse flaws to family. This session surface unresolved feelings I thought I was able to bury. It hurt me deeply when my husband talked about me to his family and mine. For example, my Husband and I went with my friend and her husband to Charlotte NC, to celebrate my friend’s birthday. There were other couples there as well. Well to make a long story short we had a really great time partying and drinking. Me along with many others really got drunk one night.
We had a great time that weekend. One day shortly after that trip, we went to my parents house to celebrate Thanksgiving. My husband had the audacity to tell my family I got sloppy drunk on our couples trip! I couldn’t believe he did this. My parents are highly respected and getting sloppy drunk is not high on their conversation list. Being the wife I am, I didn’t tell my family how my husband was high on weed on our couples trip. I still respected my loyalty to him.
After that cancelling session I expressed to my Husband how hurtful it was for him to talk to my family and his about my flaws. I asked him why did he do that. He said he do not know. Trust was not the answer I was looking for but, is the only answer I received. We are trying tho work through this and other issues. He is very apologetic. His is hard for me due tho my level of loyalty and other repetitive situations not mentioned. Currently, to earn my trusty back he is trying tho spend more time worth me and we are trying to work on our communication.
Please give me some input on how you would work through this.
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