Author Archives: Leneya

Betrayal in a Marriage

My husband and I have been married for 22 years. Honestly, it has been draining and a struggle for the most part. I love him dearly and continue to pray and hope for better days. 2 years ago I notice my Husband started expressing my flaws to his family, some peers, and my family. Flaws such as drinking on occasions and sometimes not cleaning the house. At first I didn’t say anything. Keep in mind everyone have flaws!

Earlier this year we attended married canceling. During one of our sessions, loyalty was a topic. The pastor stated that couples should never tell their spouse flaws to family. This session surface unresolved feelings I thought I was able to bury. It hurt me deeply when my husband talked about me to his family and mine. For example, my Husband and I went with my friend and her husband to Charlotte NC, to celebrate my friend’s birthday. There were other couples there as well. Well to make a long story short we had a really great time partying and drinking. Me along with many others really got drunk one night.

We had a great time that weekend. One day shortly after that trip, we went to my parents house to celebrate Thanksgiving. My husband had the audacity to tell my family I got sloppy drunk on our couples trip! I couldn’t believe he did this. My parents are highly respected and getting sloppy drunk is not high on their conversation list. Being the wife I am, I didn’t tell my family how my husband was high on weed on our couples trip. I still respected my loyalty to him.

After that cancelling session I expressed to my Husband how hurtful it was for him to talk to my family and his about my flaws. I asked him why did he do that. He said he do not know. Trust was not the answer I was looking for but, is the only answer I received. We are trying tho work through this and other issues. He is very apologetic. His is hard for me due tho my level of loyalty and other repetitive situations not mentioned. Currently, to earn my trusty back he is trying tho spend more time worth me and we are trying to work on our communication.

Please give me some input on how you would work through this.

Introduce Yourself (Example Post)

This is an example post, originally published as part of Blogging University. Enroll in one of our ten programs, and start your blog right.

You’re going to publish a post today. Don’t worry about how your blog looks. Don’t worry if you haven’t given it a name yet, or you’re feeling overwhelmed. Just click the “New Post” button, and tell us why you’re here.

Why do this?

  • Because it gives new readers context. What are you about? Why should they read your blog?
  • Because it will help you focus your own ideas about your blog and what you’d like to do with it.

The post can be short or long, a personal intro to your life or a bloggy mission statement, a manifesto for the future or a simple outline of your the types of things you hope to publish.

To help you get started, here are a few questions:

  • Why are you blogging publicly, rather than keeping a personal journal?
  • What topics do you think you’ll write about?
  • Who would you love to connect with via your blog?
  • If you blog successfully throughout the next year, what would you hope to have accomplished?

You’re not locked into any of this; one of the wonderful things about blogs is how they constantly evolve as we learn, grow, and interact with one another — but it’s good to know where and why you started, and articulating your goals may just give you a few other post ideas.

Can’t think how to get started? Just write the first thing that pops into your head. Anne Lamott, author of a book on writing we love, says that you need to give yourself permission to write a “crappy first draft”. Anne makes a great point — just start writing, and worry about editing it later.

When you’re ready to publish, give your post three to five tags that describe your blog’s focus — writing, photography, fiction, parenting, food, cars, movies, sports, whatever. These tags will help others who care about your topics find you in the Reader. Make sure one of the tags is “zerotohero,” so other new bloggers can find you, too.

Introduce Yourself (Example Post)

This is an example post, originally published as part of Blogging University. Enroll in one of our ten programs, and start your blog right.

You’re going to publish a post today. Don’t worry about how your blog looks. Don’t worry if you haven’t given it a name yet, or you’re feeling overwhelmed. Just click the “New Post” button, and tell us why you’re here.

Why do this?

  • Because it gives new readers context. What are you about? Why should they read your blog?
  • Because it will help you focus your own ideas about your blog and what you’d like to do with it.

The post can be short or long, a personal intro to your life or a bloggy mission statement, a manifesto for the future or a simple outline of your the types of things you hope to publish.

To help you get started, here are a few questions:

  • Why are you blogging publicly, rather than keeping a personal journal?
  • What topics do you think you’ll write about?
  • Who would you love to connect with via your blog?
  • If you blog successfully throughout the next year, what would you hope to have accomplished?

You’re not locked into any of this; one of the wonderful things about blogs is how they constantly evolve as we learn, grow, and interact with one another — but it’s good to know where and why you started, and articulating your goals may just give you a few other post ideas.

Can’t think how to get started? Just write the first thing that pops into your head. Anne Lamott, author of a book on writing we love, says that you need to give yourself permission to write a “crappy first draft”. Anne makes a great point — just start writing, and worry about editing it later.

When you’re ready to publish, give your post three to five tags that describe your blog’s focus — writing, photography, fiction, parenting, food, cars, movies, sports, whatever. These tags will help others who care about your topics find you in the Reader. Make sure one of the tags is “zerotohero,” so other new bloggers can find you, too.